A Father’s Letter to His Son’s Teacher

A Timeless Reflection on Character, Courage, and Education

Editorial Note: This inspirational letter is widely shared as a moral guide for parenting and education. Although frequently attributed to Abraham Lincoln, scholars confirm it is apocryphal — it was written in the 20th century and not by Lincoln. Its message, however, remains profoundly relevant for parents, educators, and HR professionals.

My son starts school today.

It is all going to be strange and new to him for a while. So I wish you would take him by his young hand and teach him the things he will have to know.

Teach him — but gently, if you can.

Teach him that for every enemy, there is a friend.
Teach him that for every scoundrel, there is a hero.
Teach him that for every crooked politician, there is a dedicated leader.

Teach him that ten cents earned by his own labour is worth more than a dollar found on the street.

Teach him to lose with honour, and to win with humility.

Teach him that failure with honesty is far better than success by cheating.

Teach him to have faith in his own ideas and beliefs, even if everyone tells him they are wrong.

Teach him to be gentle with gentle people, and tough with tough people.

Teach him to listen to all men, but to filter all he hears through the sieve of truth, and to take only the good that comes through.

Teach him how to laugh when he is sad.

Teach him that there is no shame in tears.

Teach him to close his ears to the howling mob, and to stand and fight for what he thinks is right.

Treat him gently, but do not cuddle him. Because only the test of fire makes fine steel.

“This is a big order, teacher, but see what you can do.
He is such a nice little boy, my son.”

Reflection for HR & Education Professionals

Education extends far beyond academics. The true purpose of learning is to shape individuals of strong character — people who possess integrity, resilience, empathy, critical thinking, and moral courage.

In today’s workplace, these same qualities define outstanding leaders and high-performing teams. As HR professionals, we have a responsibility to nurture environments where these values are not only taught but practiced.

Let this letter serve as a reminder: the greatest legacy we can help create is not just successful careers, but good human beings.

Published by Bangladesh HR Defender
Human Rights • Education • Ethical Leadership • Good Governance

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